Pornography Addiction – a growing phenomenon.

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Over the last few years I have noticed a huge increase in the number of clients coming to see me for pornography addiction. With the easy access of porn on line, and on tablets and phones, many men are having trouble resisting the urge to view porn more and more often, and it can be scary how quickly this can turn to an addiction.

Some of the key elements in the development of a porn addiction are starting to watch porn at a young age, controlling or uninvolved parents, loneliness and isolation, seeing a model of unhealthy relationships and early sexual abuse.

Once you have realized that you are addicted, your path to freedom starts with the realization that you’ve lost control around sex. You begin to acknowledge that you’re acting regressively and that you are probably a mature man in many ways, but you don’t understand intimacy and have confused intimacy with sexual activity.

Another thing that can be a he realisation is that you can’t get enough of what won’t satisfy you. Objectifying and sexualizing people is an never ending, negative process that yields a few minutes of excitement, a brief orgasm, then hours, days, weeks, months and years of fear, pain, shame, self doubt, self criticism, judgement and anger.

Doing this work will free you from the shackles of your negative sexual story.

Many men who have done so look back and see this as their rite of passage into true manhood, free of old compulsive sexuality. You can then take the energy you are expending on addictive behavior and channel it into a more satisfying career, intimacy and better relationships with a partner and with your family and friends. You’ll really get a life in the full sense.

Counselling for Porn addiction with qualified and experience Psychologists is available in 60 locations Australia wide at the Hart Centre. Call 1300 830 552 to find out more.

The Typical Queenslander

When you think of a typical Queenslander, apart from the massive stilts and open-plan design, one of the most recognisable qualities is the corrugated iron roof.

Since the 1840s when Australia was first developing, corrugated iron has been considered one of the best materials to use for roofing. Because of it’s lightweight, sturdy properties, it is the ideal material to use in terms of easy transportation and construction as well as protection.

Although it is a relatively strong, fire proof and weather-resistant material, if exposed to water (particularly salt) rusting is inevitable. This is why it is extremely important to coat the steel in a layer of paint in order for it to remain protected.

Even today this roofing remains to be one of the most popular choices in materials for a range of reasons. Its flexibility, strength and thin sizing allows for quick repairs, relatively cheap installation and durability with little maintenance.

Since iron is quite a durable material itself, compared to wood it is very easy to prepare for installation. Instead of needing to purchase an expensive sealant, a few layers of paint will generally be enough to prevent any damage.

Apart from the practical side of things, there is also the aesthetics. The typically 3 inch curves rolling into one another create a very symmetrical feel, breaking up the angles of the rest of the house and creating a harmonious contrast.

One aspect of corrugated iron that can pose a genuine issue is the fact that the wavelengths of most sounds are echoed loudly into the tube of the corrugated iron. This means that any noise close to or coming into contact with the roof is going to release a high pitched “ping”. This can be a genuine issue for Queenslanders as falling tree branches and wildlife are a part of our every day lives.

On the other hand, the echo can be the perfect culprit to amplify raindrops into a soothing lullaby and because of the shape of the typically 3 inch tubing and smoothness of the iron, the water runs straight down and off the roof, making cleaning very manageable. Also because it is a very thin material it allows the house to stay cool in the warm summers, making it the ideal choice for a house in Queensland. For roof painting Brisbane, visit Retro Roof Restoration.

The iron sheets themselves are relatively cheap and can be purchased with a coat of Colorbond or made galvanised to order. They range from around 5 to 45 dollars per sheet depending on the size of the sheet and what coating you have selected.

Compared with other common roofing materials such as clay, slate, concrete, wood, Spanish and asphalt, corrugated iron is often said to be one of the most durable and certainly one of the most cost-effective.

So whether it’s the classic sound of rain on the tin roof, or the practical desires of someone looking for a sturdy home, or anyone who doesn’t want to waste their precious pennies, it is no surprise that corrugated iron is one of the most popular choices in Queensland.

Healthy lunch box ideas

It can be so difficult to know what to put into your child’s lunchbox so that it is healthy and good for them but also that they enjoy the food inside. It can at times seem much easier to fill it up with things that are sugary, filled with additives and already prepared for you.

You might not feel like you know many healthy foods to put in the lunchbox, after all – fruit and vegetables would get boring for your child day after day, but you can easily add a little extra to these foods. Good food is so important, children need to fuel their body with vitamins and minerals. It is a well known fact that healthy food will make a child perform so much better academically than those who eat junk. I am going to talk you through some tasty but healthy lunch box ideas and also some ways in which you can save time and be a little more organized in the kitchen.

Lunch box ideas and tips
It would be a great idea to get your child a lunchbox that have different sections in it. This way you can separate the main part of their lunch, from their sweet and savory snack, to avoid any yoghurt flavored sandwiches! Do a little plan at the beginning of the week so that you know what you are going to put in your child’s lunch box and on what days. Make and prepare the food together also, freezing anything that it is safe to and then defrosting it later. Try and have enough variety so that you can alternate slightly but not so much that it is going to be difficult for you. Most children will be happy with 2/3 lunch box foods that they absolutely love, rather than lots that just feel like they have been thrown together. Have all lunch box ingredients, whether they are stored or refrigerated, stored together correctly. Little zip bags are ideal for keeping things fresh and having fruit and vegetables prepared can save so much time when you are putting the lunch box together. This, along with the meal planner may sound a little excessive but it is necessary to get some organisation into preparing your child’s lunch box and doing it well.

For the main section of your child’s lunch; a sandwich, wrap, a pot of pasta or salad would be perfect. Some tasty and healthy fillings for the wraps and sandwiches are chicken, turkey or tuna with salad and a little dressing. If your child does not eat meat, then some cheese or egg sandwiches would be a great alternative. Don’t forget to mix it up so they are not eating the same thing every day. With regards to pasta, you can make a big batch and freeze some to use again and again. A whole number of ingredients and dressings can be added depending on what is easiest and what your child likes. You can even give your child leftover dinner from the night before in their lunchbox, this could be anything from noodles, to a variety of light meals and nibbles.

Let’s get onto what snacks to put in your child’s lunchbox. This will vary depending on their taste but there is a big variety out there. Boiled eggs are filling and easy to make, they are also an item that can be made in batch and used when you need them. You can’t go wrong with some chilled yoghurt or jello either. A great tip is to freeze some grapes or berry’s and put them in your child’s lunch box in the morning. By lunch time, they will have thawed enough to be eaten, but they will still be chilled; these are super yummy for those summer months especially. Some of the healthier type biscuits and cereal bars are also an option to give your child. Cut up carrot sticks are a great snack with some dips, you can make whatever dips you want – hummus, mayonnaise or chilli are just a few choices for you.

I hope that you will have got something for these lunch box ideas and that they make preparing your child’s lunch, a little easier.

The Challenges of Anger Management

Anger is the natural emotion humans feel in responding to a perceived threat, frustration, assault or obstruction to our humanity and who we are.
For men, anger is their most common and immediate response to the experience of physical or emotional pain and fear.

Often anger will show up most in a man’s relationship with his partner, and this can develop into violence toward her.

For a partner over time she becomes sick of living with fear, intimidation and humiliation, and usually in time, finds the strength to give him an ultimatum “You get fixed or I’ll get out”.

There needs to be a distinction between anger and violence. Anger is an emotion. Violence is what some people might do when they are angry, or even when they are not. Violence can be physical, emotional or spiritual.

For many men their softer emotions of fear and sadness have been covered or not expressed. They have been taught “Be a man. Be strong. Take control of your life – even if you fail. But don’t show your true feelings – especially your pain and fear”. They only have access to their anger. Anger can cover so much of a man’s personal pain.

The good news is that you can solve your anger problem. Not by berating yourself as sick or sinful, but by recognizing yourself as a human being with an emotional life experience as well as a rational one.

The challenge is not really to work against your anger, but to become aware of where it comes from. To maintain control of your anger and direct what you do with it.

Anger is not about control. It is about loss of control. For most men losing control is painful and fearful. You can feel vulnerable and feel like you’ve failed. Sometime men fear the consequences of losing control more than just about anything else. The pain of failure and the fear of losing control drives much of men’s anger.

The Hart Centre Australia has around 50 Psychologists in centres around Australia ready to help you manage your anger in individual anger management sessions. Contact the Hart Centre Phone 1300830552 for more details anger management and anger counselling.

Tax Return Preparation Advice

When it comes to tax return preparation, there are many things that you will want to consider. During tax season, there is so much confusion. Many people try to prepare and file their returns on their own, but is that really the best idea? With so much confusion, so many new tax laws, and so much on the line, why would anyone want to take the risk of making a mistake doing it on their own? Even if you have been doing it on your own for years, take a look at the reasons that you should engage a professional chartered accountant.

Why Should You Get Your Tax Return Prepared by a Professional?
Are you hesitant about spending extra money to have your tax return prepared by a professional? There are a lot of people out there that would rather just use the free software to file their own taxes without having to pay anything out of pocket. Since that option is available, why would anyone even consider paying someone to do it? The answer is obvious!
There are many advantages that come along with using a professional for your tax return preparation. First and foremost, you can rest assured that your tax return will be error free. Professional accountants will take their time and double check everything on your return. They will also be able to minimise your tax liabilities and get you the highest refund possible. When it comes to being audited, they will also be able to provide you with audit protection. This can save you a lot of hassle down the road.

What is a Chartered Accountant?
A chartered accountant is a professional accountant who is widely regarded as a cut above the average accountant. And there’s good reason why. They have successfully completed an intensive two-year program of postgraduate education and three years of mentored work experience. They are more highly accredited than your average accountant. They will be able to offer you a higher quality service for the most simple or complex tax returns.

Doing Your Taxes Online
So, why should you consider doing your taxes online? There are many people out there that file their taxes online each year. It comes with a lot of convenience. Electronic tax filing is becoming more and more popular each year. People like the fact that they are able to manage their tax return preparation online without leaving the comforts of their own home. If you have never prepared your tax return online, you will definitely want to give it a try. Chances are you will like it so much that you would never consider filing your taxes any other way.

As you can see, when you are getting ready to file your taxes this year you will want to make sure that you hire a professional chartered accountant to get the job done right for you. You will also want to consider filing electronically online to speed up the process and make it much more convenient. Don’t make the classic mistake of trying to file on your own, you may be leaving money on the table.